Welcome to Laneth.com - I've implemented rules here on my site to ensure the interactions, if-and-when they occur, remain respectful and thoughtful. Please understand that this site is still basically a blog. I'm just using a different approach to content management and presentation.
First and Foremost
This is my site.
As the name suggests, this is my website. The content posted herein operates under the umbrella rules of:
- I will post what I like here. Much like any blog, this site is my place to share my content as I see fit.
- You may not like it and that is fine, but it doesn't mean you necessarily have a platform to respond or complain.
- Still, I understand and respect the fact that by virtue of sharing anything with others it opens it up to criticism or complaint. If you wish to do so, I'll address such only if it is delivered respectfully.
- Respect is the underlying factor here. #
My primary audience is myself.
It should be understood that everything that I write and/or share here has been done with the express purpose of logging it for myself in the future.
- I used to have a LiveJournal, I used to vlog on YouTube, and I write in a physical journal; this is almost an extension of that activity.
- The content that I share that is more open, such as the content shared in the "Blog" forums, are more than open to interaction and sharing, though the keyword from above still stands.
- By sharing much of my content, I've opened up a chunk of my personal life; I don't run a business blog on blogging or photography or travel, and I'm not writing a whitepaper on how to make a six-figure income online. Rather I am writing about myself and my life, and as such expect a certain sense of decency and respect be shown both ways here. #
- This is my site.
- Stay on topic
- Title your posts appropriately
- Keep it civil, keep it clean
- Don’t (unnecessarily) bump threads
- Don't spam
- Share your Knowledge
- Report abuse
Loaned/adapted from The Mary Sue because it just makes sense. Click here to read their full commenting policy.
I have a very strict comment policy: If you’re an asshole, you’ll be banned. Sorry, assholes!
That, most important, statement out of the way, here’s what you need to know.
- If your comment does not immediately appear on the site after posting, it may have been flagged for review. There are a number of things which will get your comment flagged for review, I ask that you please keep that in mind before resubmitting the comment multiple times or contacting me about it.
- Use of any of the curse words and/or slurs I have on my blacklist will automatically flag a comment so it won’t appear on our site. Sometimes these words are used as part of a good discussion, these comments will be approved by a moderator when appropriate.
- Comments can also be flagged for review by other users (please do not abuse this option for other users you simply disagree with, it makes my moderation job a lot harder).
- Personal attacks against another commenter or the writer of the post/website. This can run from name calling to sentences which include the words “people like you” or statements which begin “I bet you” or “you must/probably” etc. This is regardless of what “side” you’re on.
- Jokes or aggressive negative comments on the aesthetic appearance of a person (commenters, writers, and folks mentioned in an article alike).
- Hate speech or other clearly intentional jerk behavior. This includes, but is not limited to: the use of the word feminazi or a comments which denigrates women, feminism or feminists, the LGBTQ community; broad imprecations or assumptions based on race; and anything that amounts to “ugh the gays,” “ugh liberals,” “ugh, fangirls,” etc.
- Engaging in any of the previously mentioned delete-worthy behaviors consistently and as part of a clear pattern OR presenting a particularly egregious example of one of those behaviors as a first comment (New to the site? Stopped by just to say something horrible? I don’t need you here.) I'll normally give one warning to a user before banning unless a pattern of behavior is clear. However, if a user commits one of these behaviors as their very first comment, I'll happily skip that step.
- Hate reading. If your history of commenting makes it seem like you only visit the site to start fights or specifically to disagree with me whenever I publish a post involving my core themes and for no other reason, I will ban you. Conversely, if you feel the site has changed in a drastic way and no longer appreciate or respect my content but stick around to tell me that every day, I’ll also take that as hate reading.
I like to think that by this point most folks will realise that I'll have a zero tolerance policy when it comes to disrespectful content, so if you have permission to post and are doing so, let's implement some critical thinking guidelines for your content:
Critical Thinking Tips:
- ... benefits from this?
- ... is this harmful to?
- ... makes decisions about this?
- ... is most directly affected?
- ... have you also heard discuss this?
- ... would be the best person to consult?
- ... will be the key people in this?
- ... deserves recognition for this?
- ... are the strengths/weaknesses?
- ... is another perspective?
- ... is another alternative?
- ... would be a counter-argument?
- ... is the best/worst case scenario?
- ... is most/least important?
- ... can we do to make a positive change?
- ... is getting in the way of our action?
- ... would we see this in the real world?
- ... are there similar concepts/situations?
- ... is there the most need for this?
- ... in the world would this be a problem?
- ... can we get more information?
- ... do we go for help with this?
- ... will this idea take us?
- ... are the areas for improvement?
- ... is this acceptable/unacceptable?
- ... would this benefit our society?
- ... would this cause a problem?
- ... is the best time to take action?
- ... will we know we've succeeded?
- ... has this played a part in our history?
- ... can we expect this to change?
- ... should we ask for help with this?
- ... is this a problem/challenge?
- ... is it relevant to me/others?
- ... is this the best/worst scenario?
- ... are people influenced by this?
- ... should people know about this?
- ... has it been this way for so long?
- ... have we allowed this to happen?
- ... is there a need for this today?
- ... is this similar to _____?
- ... does this disrupt things?
- ... do we know the truth about this?
- ... will we approach this safely?
- ... does this benefit us/others?
- ... does this harm us/others?
- ... do we see this in the future?
- ... can we change this for our good?
Separating Online & Real Life
It's an unavoidable fact that so very many of us spend time online and have an 'online persona' that we seem to develop over time.
I've been online in one form-or-another since around 1997, so not only do I have a fairly strong and established persona online but I have a long history of content posted at various ages and stages in my life.
Part of the significance of an online persona is that it isn't necessarily a wholly accurate or complete representation of the user when taken at a glance or cursory search made on a search engine; reading the first few pages of a book is hardly a good or fair indication of whether it will be a good read or not.
So, by this token, making a judgement call on the real life person based on their online activities - be they social accounts or written articles or even photos posted by themselves or others - is not a fair or mature way of judging somebody.
This is not me seeking clemency from public posts I've made in the past, but it is a request that you do two things before finalising your opinion:
1. Meet me in person or speak to me on the phone - you'll find that I am wildly different in real life than I am online. (I'm wholly more eloquent and charming online when I want to be than I can be IRL...); and
2. Understand that every person is a work in progress and what they posted last week, last year, or last decade, may not represent the person that sits/stands before you today. Everybody grows through their experiences, and we cannot know what people are going through until we see and speak with them face-to-face. #
Ask, Don't Assume
If there is any doubt whatsoever, about me or any related content posted online about/involving me, please ask me.
I live my life without hiding anything and would be more than happy to provide more detail or appropriate context for a situation that you may wish to know more about or find troubling. Believe me, what might seem questionable often has a completely mundane and/or humorous tale attached to it. #
- Separating Online & Real Life